Relationship
Therapy

We offer relationship counselling for couples, singles and parent/child relationships.

How much time, energy and money do we invest in our careers, in seeking knowledge and developing our skills? And yet in comparison how much do we invest in our relationships? Although relationships are the most important thing in our life, we get very little education about them, other than what is modelled to us in our families and what we are exposed to culturally.

There is a wealth of research and invaluable information to help us to recognise, engage in, and better manage differences and any repeating stressors in our relationships. All relationships will go through a myriad of changes over their lifespan as we progress through different phases of life. There can be external stressors and internal changes we have not accounted or prepared for. Understanding ways to relate honestly, and develop healthy communication, without unrealistic expectations, is what you can expect from therapy.

Strategies for Relationships

There are some strategies you can apply and immediately see results from, and there is deeper work you can engage in to take your relationship to its full potential. Counselling will be more effective the more you are willing to share and process.

Developing emotional intelligence is integral to relationships. Emotional intelligence is having the capacity to be aware of, control, and express emotions. We need to be able to recognise the feelings of others also, so we can handle our relationships judiciously and empathetically, as this will add to our success and happiness in life.

Relationship counselling can be for couples, singles, and parent and child relationships.

Some strategies you can apply now:

  • Try telling your partner each day something you appreciate about them. The Gottman Insitute has found if there are five positive interactions for every negative interaction, a couple can have a stable and happy relationship over time.
  • It’s ok to fight but you need to be better at repair and forgiving -: conflict is an opportunity to learn to love your partner better over time; apologising is not about wrong and right but shows that you value your relationship more than your ego.

These strategies can be applied in all our relationships.

If your partner is unwilling to come to Relationship Therapy (they may take longer to process the value of therapy), it can still be very beneficial to come on your own. Therapy can empower you to be an agent of change in your relationship.

Relationship Therapist Nowra
Relationship Therapist Berry

HANDY TIPS

  • You are not a mind reader – and neither is your partner. Don’t assume your partner knows what you want and need. Talk about what you both need and want – assumptions can breed resentment and disappointment.
  • Take responsibility for your feelings and behaviours – do not blame and try to use ‘I’ statements. For example instead of “You made me feel…” try “I feel hurt when you…., I’d prefer if you…”
  • Have regular date nights – Take turns planning regular date nights. This can be things like hiking, picnics, going to a movie, or learning something new together. Then, at least once a year, plan a getaway removing yourself from everyday distractions at home and enjoy a fun new environment.

“Come my darling,
It is never too late to begin our love again”

Atticus